“Here we also find the purpose of this Godly-formed union—to reflect the image of their Creator.”
“When Christ is in the heart of both a man and a woman, Christ’s life will be their life. His story, made their own, is to be reflected constantly”
“…is not a reflection but a mere mirage of the perfect figure?”
Reflections from the Bridegroom’s heart
by: Marilyn Escobar
One day the King of Kings, the Lord of the universe had a desire. He desired to create a being after His own image. “So God created man in His own image, in the image of God created He him; male and female created He them” (Gn 1:27). It is in this verse that we find the first account of male and female; yet, this is not all we find. Here we also find the purpose of this Godly-formed union—to reflect the image of their Creator. Therefore, marriage, in the original design, was to be a beautiful reflection of the character of God. However, is not a reflection but a mere mirage of the perfect figure? In order to learn to express the image of God in our roles we must learn the role of God towards the church and the church to God.
“For thy maker is thine husband: the Lord of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called” (Is 54:5). The marriage relation was to be a symbol of the union of Christ and His beloved bride—the church. If this is so, then we can infer that His relationship with His bride is the perfect pattern for us.
As I meditated on this thought and asked my Lord for His guidance in understanding what He wanted me to learn from this, the most precious story began to unfold. And subsequently, a greater understanding of His love for us was revealed. Still, as if that were not enough, our loving Father, tenderly desires to lead us by the hand, pointing to us our responsibility in the marriage relationship as we behold His perfect example.
First, we will study Christ’s example as the bridegroom and discover the Biblical role of Godly men in relation to their brides. Second, we will reflect on the bridegroom’s wife, the church, and unearth what our beloved Father wanted to teach us women in this analogy. Though it is just a glimpse of such an intricate story, it is my prayer that it will make us feel our desperate need to search what is God’s will for our lives. That we may come to Him as simple, helpless children and ask Him, “You gave all for me, what wilt thou have me to do?”
“Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee” (Jer 31:3). He saw her (the church) and loved her. Christ saw great value in her that he gave himself as the payment; for no price would be too great, she was a precious treasure. Ephesians 5:25, 26 reads, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” Yet, in order to claim her as his own, Christ must come down, humble himself, and tread a path full of toil and selflessness. Such was needed to demonstrate his pure, longing desire for her.
Yes, he would even lay down His life for her that He might redeem her and pronounce those sweet words, “Thou art mine” (Is 43:1). Once she was His, He was careful in His care of her, providing for not only her physical need but most importantly her spiritual needs. He would lead her as the Head, the High Priest, to come to a closer communion with God. In His presence, the bride would find safety and would not fear as He had promised that He would be with her always, even unto the end (Mt 28:20).
Christ’s beloved also desired and loved Him. It was His character that was attractive, not any outward appearance.She quietly and patiently waited on Him, all the while beholding His beautiful character. As she would behold His communion with God, she was drawn to search it for herself. Her adorning was not of outward adorning but of the heart (1 Pt 1:3,4). When she was taken of Him to be His bride, she submitted herself to Him. The respect she had towards Him was out of love. She, the church, would be loving, nurturing and possessing a tender heart towards the needy, suffering ones. She was to be like a frail vessel holding a most precious treasure, God’s word in her heart. Unwearyingly, she would endure hardship and toil, finding her husband’s strength sufficient through her weakness (2 Cor 12:10). She was the Lamb’s bride and she would follow him where He went (Rev 14:4).
Is it not beautiful to see the story of redemption unfolding in such a way? We should make His desire our own, for His way is the only way. Therefore, Christ is to be the one and only example for us all. The unselfish, unwearied and deep love Christ had for His bride should be portrayed in the relationship of a God-fearing man towards his wife. He should be willing to lay down his life for her, protect, provide and lead her. His God-like character being the most outstanding quality. The God-fearing wife should love her husband back. She is to be reserved, patiently waiting upon the Lord. Her only adorning should be that of a meek, gentle and quiet spirit, which is truly strength of character. She will follow her husband as he follows Christ and will remain true through adverse conditions.
When Christ is in the heart of both a man and a woman, Christ’s life will be their life. His story, made their own, is to be reflected constantly. It will shine naturally and will not be able to be hidden. Although reflections have no voice, one cannot deny their presence nor impact.